Christian matchmaking Christian matchmaking is the next step to Christian dating. After spending some time in dating, you need to come to a decision. The decision is whether you have finally found your match or not. But this is not the step before marriage. It is a step between dating and engagement. Just because the person is a match does not mean that you have arrived. Christian dating and Christian matchmaking are a bit like an important step in an interview process to have a suitable candidate for the job. Everyone short-listed is a potential employee. When they reach the interview, it is about determining whether they are employable or not. Depending on how deep the employer wants to dig, and then there might be a second or third interview with different tasks and activities. So Christian matchmaking enables you to find a potential spouse. The next step to Christian matchmaking is engagement. Engagement involves commitment. During Christian dating and matchmaking, there is no commitment. It is about assessing each other in order to reach a decision. When you make a decision and make a commitment, you enter the engagement phase. But engagement itself is not the final decision. It is a commitment and a promise that is not 100% binding. Let’s say 99% binding and you have a 1% window. It means that it can be broken if the other person fails the test during the finishing touches. Remember Mary and Joseph, when Mary got pregnant? 19 Joseph, her fiancé, was a good man and did not want to disgrace her publicly, so he decided to break the engagement* quietly. Matthew 1:19 Obviously you need to have a valid reason to reach that decision. It is not a license to go around breaking people hearts. Let’s finish with a diagram for the whole process leading to marriage. |
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